While I firmly believe that admissions requirements and qualification criteria must be relevant to the program for which they are assigned, I also believe that we must give students every opportunity to reach their fullest potential. An accelerated math program that effectively allows students to skip a year or more of math must ensure that the students in the program have the necessary background information, but this same requirement means that parents must seek out additional education opportunities for their children to ensure admittance into these programs.
This was, in many ways frustrating to him. As much as we saw that he didn't understand the world around him -- and the world didn’t understand him -- I think he internalized this even more. We stubbornly fought to find a place for him, though over the years, I’ve come to understand that, like my little brother, a small percentage of the world seems to operate on a different frequency, neither understanding or being understood by the masses of humanity.
The question we should be asking, however, is not when, how, or if we should tell a child that he/she is gifted but, rather, why are we telling that child?
My mom always told us that should would never be proud of us for just being smart because we were born that way -- we didn't do anything to be that way." Your child is gifted. Are you proud of your child for having brown hair? for being cute? for being short or tall? No. It's what they do with their gifts and talents that matter.